Life is a boon....

Recent times have witnessed quite a few cases of suicide mostly by children of the age group of 10-18 years. There are varied reasons of course but the most common is due to facing some kind of punishment. Whenever they are punished may be at school or even at home they can't take the humiliation and follow the easier way out. They end their lives.

Having self-respect is always commendable but their's are not shaped properly. They can't understand the difference between humiliation and their own good. But being exposed to the world of television and internet their personality have developed very differently. They don't understand the distinction between themselves and a grown-up. And this is definitely not their fault. Today's lifestyle have breached the gap between a grown-up and a child. That is why they react if their mistakes are pointed out. I'm not talking in favour of corporal punishments in school. They should be banned because sometimes as we have seen in many cases instead of punishing and rectifying their mistakes children are tortured brutally. But on the other hand children should be taught to understand their mistakes. They should understand that their formative years should be guided by a specialist in the field.

In school a teacher should always be the person a student would look up to. I'm not talking about exceptional cases but generally a teacher is there to guide the students. If a teacher punishes someone that is always for his own good. But if the student takes this as a humiliation and goes home to commit suicide then there is no point in rectifying somebody's faults. If this goes on, teachers will overlook the mistakes of a student and this will happen out of fear. Ultimately this would lead to serious consequences when the person grows up.

If a student then goes astray the school would be held responsible for not teaching the students the ethical values. Then what would the teachers or the parents do? There should be a way out of this. Children should be taught to be restrained. They should understand their own good. This can be done in various ways. Firstly they should be taught that teachers and parents as well as all elders are more experienced than they are and they know perfectly what is good for the children. If someone scolds them then there must be a reason for it. A respect for elders should be imbibed in them. They should also understand how important life is and one single failure or humiliation is not even worth a reason to end it. Children should become strong at heart because if they can't take these little challenges it would become impossible for them to lead a whole life where problems never take a backseat.

Lastly they should be given time and their problems should be given importance. Loneliness is the root for all these problems. They should understand that until and unless one falters, one can never succeed. These little faltering steps would ultimately lead them to their dreams and the first steps are always very difficult. If they learn to move on with these petty difficulties the challenges of the big outer world would become easy to handle.

A Thought...

Now the Kolkata Metro can boast of a few air-conditioned rakes. Few days back I was fortunate enough to board one. It is really good and the first thing that comes to the mind is that "Oh my God, is it really Kolkata?!!" It is not surprising to feel like this if one compares Kolkata with the other metropolitan cities. After that day I've boarded it nearly four times but still I can't get out of that thrill.

All these four times as soon as I got down from the train I texted all my close friends. And we just can't stop talking about this. But my two and a half year old niece did not find it thrilling at all though she can't express properly. What I could make out from her expression is that "What is there to be so much thrilled and surprised? It is just a normal air-conditioned train like an air-conditioned room." Air-conditions are no more a luxury. Every single house has atleast one. Things have changed a lot over the years. Things of luxury have become things of necessity. Nowadays children don't even waste a thought over things which used to awe us as children.

Accumulation of wealth in the hands of certain sectors have definitely led to this. Even today if we board an air-conditioned train we text people to share our enjoyment. Children may be just 8-9 years younger than us are so drastically different. I somehow can't relate our childhood with them. Few days back while I was helping the same niece of mine with her meal I tried to tell her a story about fairies. But she was not at all interested. Instead she was interested in the television. I gifted a storybook to my brother who is 9years of age but my aunt told me that he is not interested in reading. I can see that they lack imagination. Whenever they are told to write a simple essay for example on a cat, they seek the help of the essay books. This is very alarming.

These children pick up things very fast. They know how to use nearly all the electronic gadgets but they don't have the childhood fantasies. If someone does not know the age it has become difficult nowadays to distinguish between a child and a grown-up because children don't behave the way they should. They have not learnt to compromise, they get everything they demand, they are not brought up the way they should. Fast lifestyle is taking its toll mostly on the children. Parents can't give them time and they try to fill that void by succumbing to their demands.

I think it is high time we should stop and think whether this is the right way to bring up our future generation. Should'nt we follow the dictum "everything has a time" and act accordingly. Getting everything much before before time will actually harm our society' our lives' our children in the long run..

Just like that...

It has been more than a month since I scribbled down something. But it can't be helped. During the festive season blogging also takes a backseat. The pujas were great this time. I enjoyed to the fullest with a very special person. Day by day I'm getting to know him more and yes I think this one is surely gonna click.

If you know someone from the nursery and have remained great buddies till date it definitely becomes easier to understand and adjust. I never had much friends in school but still I would say that you can be yourself with your schoolmates. Since our personalities have developed together it is easier. When you are grown up you have developed your personality, your viewpoint everything. Then being friendly is not that easy. You can have a really good professional relationship. But I must admit that I have a great group in my college.

When you come from a same school and you grow up together there is a common thread in between which binds you to your fellow mates. Somewhere or the other your thinking has the same structure. But when that protective sheath of the school breaks and we step in the outer world we are surprised at the different outlooks of recently known people. But one needs to get accustomed.

I found out that the best way to maintain a professional relationship is to do you work properly and maintain a healthy and stable relationship with your mates; not too distant, not too intimate.. :) :P

Black and White

Since the day my new digital camera found its way into my home life has become a bit easy. The reason is that uploading photos is no more a problem now. And no matter how much I criticize people who are upload freak I cant deny the fact I would also love to do the same. But the main problem is that my life is not at all happening. It is boring to death.

I don't visit places where photos if taken would look very appealing and all. I do have a boyfriend( though I don't like the term) but I hardly meet him and when I do I don't carry my digicam along. Even if I carry there should be a third person to capture our 'lovable moments' but there is none. And if there is someone I can never make this request somehow. So life is quite sad. I have a cellphone which captures images pretty well but I don't have a data cable. So you see there is always a problem like a tag.

I've been bowled over by the black and white photos which are in the albums of my every Facebook friends. But as I said in my last post I'm so very technically challenged that since last November I've been trying to bring the sepia mode and all in my camera but in vain. My dad is of no help here because he somehow detests these small digicams. To him camera means SLR. I remember my childhood sundays being wasted learning how to focus by using one of his SLRs. But all his teachings did not have any effect because as soon as I grew up I took the easier path - the common easy digicams.

Today I became very frustrated after trying the zillionth time to convert my camera mode to black and white. So I installed Picasa. I was enjoying exploring it and ecstatic after changing my pics to sepia mode and removing my pimples!! Now my photos can definitely feature in the Fair nd Lovely advertisements.

Still the frustration was there. I thought if every digicam can have those modes why not mine? I checked the price of mine. Umm... quite costly it was. Then I thought that God has certainly deprived me purposely. But then a voice inside me said anyhow I would do it today. And yes finally I've found the way. I became successful but hold on problems never have ending. The battery is not working. I need a new set of batteries right now so that I can practice finding the method again and again. But whatever I'm quite happy. It is rather a boring post but I think I named my blog Freaking Thoughts.. right?

New Blogger

Blogging is the new sensation of the younger generation trying to prove themselves I don't know what. I kind of liked staying aloof from this whole blog thing. There are many reasons for this. First and foremost I'm lazy... Secondly I'm extremely clumsy with computers. It took me months to learn how to operate Facebook but still I'm not an expert. Now this blogging thing posed a serious challenge to my capabilities.

But wanting to join the band wagon is definitely not of shame. So I've started blogging from today and yeah its fun. All credit goes to my friend Sohini Chattopadhyay who patiently gave me directions over the phone to create this blog. I wont be a regular over here I know but would try to take out some time from my famous lazing around and sleeping in order to post my 'freaking thoughts'...........................